One of the most profound gifts to emerge from my experience with Throat cancer has been the transformation and deepening of my relationship with my sister-in-law, Leslie Garland. From the very beginning, Leslie offered invaluable support as I struggled to accept the possibility of a serious health challenge. Her presence and guidance have played a significant role throughout my journey.

Early Support and Insight

During one of Leslie’s Positive Intelligence Pod group calls, I shared my awareness of changes in my relationship with my husband, particularly regarding the ways he was supporting me as I underwent further medical testing. I also mentioned my intention not to share anything about my condition with my two sons, hoping to spare them unnecessary worry. Interestingly, many participants in the call understood my perspective and agreed with my approach.

A Different Perspective

Leslie, however, offered an alternative view. She suggested that by sharing my situation with my sons, I could demonstrate openness and invite their guidance and support, regardless of whether the diagnosis turned out to be serious or not. After the meeting, Leslie called me to elaborate on her thoughts, which had a significant impact on me. Her words reminded me of a time when my own mother waited until two days before her scheduled surgery to inform me about the procedure. At the time, I felt blindsided and upset, having to rearrange my commitments to support her. As a doctor, my mother understood the seriousness of her condition, yet she chose to downplay it until the last moment. This memory highlighted the importance of transparency within families during times of health challenges.

Choosing Honesty with My Family

Motivated by Leslie’s intervention, I decided to call my sons and let them know I was facing a health challenge, even though I had little information other than the fact that I was undergoing tests. Looking back, I am grateful for Leslie’s advice, as it helped me realize that honesty with my family is truly the best approach. Her influence has been instrumental in shaping how I navigate these difficult moments, and I am thankful for the strengthened bond between us.

Warmth and Generosity

Throughout the past several months, both Leslie and my brother Michael have demonstrated remarkable support. Their generosity has been a source of immense comfort during this challenging period. Michael, in his caring way, has brought me some of his well-loved homemade soups, providing not only nourishment but also a sense of normalcy and connection. Meanwhile, Leslie has consistently offered thoughtful gifts that have brought light to difficult days.

One especially memorable gesture was when Leslie dropped by one evening with a beautiful heart sculpture. This gift holds deep meaning for me. Its aesthetic beauty is striking, but it also serves a practical purpose: I find comfort in holding the sculpture, running my fingers over the smooth and rough surfaces. The tactile experience resonates with me, as it mirrors the journey I am on—full of both hardships and moments of grace.

The heart sculpture, carved from stone, serves as a powerful analogy. The rough and smooth parts represent the dual nature of life’s experiences. Facing Stage 3 cancer has certainly brought its share of rough moments, but there have also been many unexpected gifts—those smooth, comforting times that bring hope and strength. Among these gifts, the most profound has been discovering and learning about the warmth and generosity of my sister-in-law. This deepening relationship is a treasure, and I am truly grateful for it..